I fight for those who cannot fight for themselves!

Many times I get asked, "what do you do in Thailand?"  And many assume I am some form of digital nomad, tourist or some sort of journalist. When I tell them I work with orphans, children with HIV and children at risk, they almost don't believe me.

It's as if they don't want to believe that our world is capable of such terrible malfeasance. It's hard for people to swallow that nestled in the northern hills of Thailand women and children are bought and sold like livestock. That children as young as 10 months old are being raped over and over and babies are found in garbage cans.

I AM FIGHTING A WAR.

I am fighting so children around the world can have the fundamental rights that every human deserves.

I am fighting so 8 year old children do not have to be the sole caretaker for their mothers dying of HIV.

I am fighting for innocent children who are literally tossed away because they are a byproduct of someone's twisted reality.

I fight to protect children so every moment of every day they know they are loved beyond measure and will forever be safe.

I fight because there are sick people in this world that view precious lives as commodities; as a means to a sick and distorted end!

I CANNOT FIGHT THIS WAR ALONE!

One solider cannot single handedly win the war!!!
We need an army to rise up united! To stand together as we infiltrate the darkness and evil seeping into our world!

NO LONGER can we stand by as children cry out in fear without any protection!

NO LONGER can we allow self entitled men to exploit tender young women and children simply for bragging rights and ego boosters!

Will you take up the fight?

Will you do your part to ensure precious lives are protected, or will you stand by and watch as whole generations are being annihilated because no one would fight for them.

I will not stop fighting everyday and even though I get weary and worn, my mission is clear!

I Fight for those who cannot fight for themselves!

The Fog

Sure footed I step out on the wilderness path. The tall grass sways in shades of emerald green while the trees shade me from the bright sun. My hair blows in whisps around my face as I stand on the edge of the forest.

Deeper I travel into the forest inspired by its beauty and compelled by a longing for adventure.
The sun almost hidden by the intertwining leaves and branches of the canopy above. The deeper I go, the darker it becomes. I turn looking around as I realize the birds have become silent and life has become still.

A chill starting from my spine fills my body as the darkness engulfs me. Somehow the darkness leaves my eyes open to a swirling fog entangling my feet. It is as if the darkness wants me to witness the upheaval I am helpless to resist. Unaware of a violent disturbance that awaits me, movement has become impossible. The darkness has ensnared me.

The fog dances above my knees whispering offenses those closest have caused against me as if to suggest repayment will save me.

Deep emotions fight in dissenting opinions within my darkest soul. "HATE THEM!" "Forgive them!" "HURT THEM!" Love them"

The fog has climbed around my waist and surrounds the forest. Emotions exploding dark colors within my soul that as they reach my eyes they flow down my face clear. The color of emptiness.

My heart utters forgiveness as my head screams revenge.

The fog touches my neck with its long spindly fingers. Again darkness whispers my name. Choking me with lies of freedom if I choice its path.

My heart racing as my choices are revealed. To chose to be fully engulfed by the fog and be driven to revenge, hatred and darkness. or to chose a magnanimous gesture of forgiveness.

The battle continues to rage between my mind and my heart. My head claiming revenge is a reward of enslavement as my heart cries out for the freedom of forgiveness. The endless tug-of-war persistent.

The fog gently touches my lips trying to force my answer. Barely audible a voice from within breathes, "forgiveness".

Darkness screams with piercing range for it knows it has lost.

A soft warm light has found its way through the tangle of the leaves spreading its rays over my face. The fog suddenly retreats as the sun touches my shoulders and neck. The fog's grip is released as it chases after darkness retreating.

The light wraps around me in its embrace expelling all remaining chill from my body and gently guides me out from within the belly of the forest.

On the edge of the forest I see another wanderer becoming lost by all that glitters; knowing all too well what lies ahead.

Little Bird

Little bird why are you caged?

What coercion keeps you from spreading your wings?

The bars that hold you are mere twigs you have been taught to think are steel.

Who has taught you such lies?

The fortitude you seek lies just beyond the mountains.

Little bird your song is your catalyst for freedom.

One swift moment and you will be free from your prison.

Little bird you are hurting yet you refuse empathetic looks.

Your head held high awaiting the moment you feel the wind beneath your wings.

An indignant thought has never crossed your mind.

Little bird teach me your hope song so I too may escape my shackles.

Little bird teach me to fly.

The true weight of weightloss

As many of you have been following my weight loss journey this last year, I wanted to write the gut honest truth about my journey. I write this not only for the sake of my readers to gain access into what these last 15 months have been like, but also for myself. To be honest with myself and to gain a better understanding of my own journey. A lot of what I will write in this entry, I am just now processing for the first time.

Let me start at the very beginning of my journey. During the summer of 2014 I was admitted into the hospital for emergency abdominal surgery. This however was not my first surgery but in fact my second in six months. My first surgery had been messed up so badly that it created more issues causing me to have to undergo another 4 hour long procedure in Kenya, Africa. After my second surgery, I remember my doctor coming into my room and telling me that I really needed to lose weight. At this point I was nearing 300 pounds and I did not realize the weight (no pun intended) of my situation. It is hard when someone tells you that you need to lose weight but I managed to convince myself I wasn't as overweight as he claimed. So, I brushed it off. After being released from the hospital, my dad and I had a conversation about me losing weight and I remember telling my dad, "I have no motivation to get healthy." And well... I didn't. Going to the gym was daunting, eating healthy seemed nearly impossible and well I just didn't have the time.... or so I told myself.

 Fast forward a few months and now I was living in Maryland, working two jobs and gaining weight rapidly due to my fast food and soda addictions. I felt terrible. I was out of breath just looking at a flight of stairs, my weight on my joints was taking its toll and I wanted to know why my insides felt so terrible. After getting tested by a GI doctor, I was told I had IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome). A nice way of saying, he didn't fully know what I had and he didn't really feel like doing anymore testing. I felt a little defeated. I turned to my small group and asked for prayers that I would find relief from my intestinal issues. I remember my small group leader looking at me and saying, "Angela, you know I'm a nutritionist right?" An immediate answer to prayer sitting two chairs down from me. However this was just the easy part!

 Holly (my small group leader) asked me to journal what I ate every day for an entire week. Let me just tell you that was the most honest I had ever been with anyone as to how bad my eating habits had become. Sitting at her kitchen table the next weekend as she silently read my food journal was super intimidating. In her most perfectly honest manner she told me everything I ate was total junk. Even the things I thought were the healthier option were really not healthy at all, instead unhealthiness wrapped in a healthy packaging. However, Holly did more for me than just tell me what I was eating wasn't healthy, she gave me the tools to changing my entire lifestyle.

 "I want you to eat no processed foods, no dairy, no gluten, no sugar and no caffeine for an entire month and see how you feel." Holly's words to me to help me figure out what was causing me to feel so bad.

 That first week to be entirely honest, was hell. The first three days I went without caffeine and sugar felt like I had quit drugs cold turkey. I was experiencing chills, weakness, shakes, nausea and had to leave work early because I was so sick. I called Holly and asked her what the heck was going on. She calmly told me I was fine and that I was simply detoxing. I HAD become addicted to sugar and caffeine in ways I didn't know were possible. That first week I had to teach myself to drink water. YUCK! Up to this point I only drank water when it was the last possible option available (Or my mom made me drink it!) I really detested the taste of water and yes, I would argue that water has a taste! It wasn't satisfying to my sugar addicted taste buds.

 Also during that first week, I had to learn how to shop. Now as a girl I know how to shop, my aunt and I can shoe shop like professionals. So no, that's obviously not the kind of shopping I'm talking about. I'm talking about tackling the grocery store. It’s a very scary place honestly! It’s not as simple as browsing the isles and deciding on what looks good. You have to carefully read ALL labels to find out what is really in the food, research different stores to figure out if they use preservatives and insecticides on their fresh produce, and find out if "organic" is really organic or not. It is not a feat for the faint of heart or something I could have done on my own. I called and texted Holly so many times that first week I'm sure she was nearly sick of me! Finally with my fridge loaded up with all natural fruits and vegetables and a lot of chicken, I began clean eating.

Now clean eating isn’t easy. There is no just popping through the drive thru and grabbing a meal. It is a lot of planning, cooking, recipe finding and frustration when it doesn’t come out right the first time.  There is a huge margin of trial and error that can lead to a lot of choice words and near defeat. My creative experimentations began to emerge as I learned what foods I did like and how I could pair them with other things. It took a lot of prayer and patience as I began to find my way with eating clean.

Now here comes the amazing part. . . After the first week of clean eating, I began to feel so much better. I didn’t hurt all the time, I had more energy and as weird as it is to say, my insides felt clean. Now I didn’t have some massive burst of energy but I found I wasn’t as tired at the end of the day and I was able to maintain a steady pace throughout the day.

During that whole first month my goal was never to lose weight. In fact I didn’t think I would lose any weight. Holly however knew differently. At the end of that first month, she asked me to weigh myself to see how much weight I had lost. I almost laughed out loud thinking there was no way I had lost any weight. Timidly I approached the scale and almost fell off when I read the numbers. I had lost 19 pounds in a month. 19 whole pounds was totally gone just by me changing my eating lifestyle! Not only did I feel amazing but I was able to lose weight in the process. Talk about motivation!!!! I had a new found determination and drive to want the pounds to come off and to continue to feel better than I ever had! So I started running! (Another journey for another post!)

Well, that is just the beginning of this story. 19 pounds lost turned into 50 pounds lost. 50 pounds lost turned into 76 pounds lost and now I am nearing my goal weight. But this journey is so much more than just changing how you eat or running three days a week.

This journey is riddled with so much pain, hardships, frustrations and at the same time so many joys and excitement. I don’t say this as a discouragement but simply to share the honest truth of my journey.

When I was nearly 300 pounds, I didn’t realize how overweight I was. I knew I was big but I didn’t know how big I was. I think your mind sees what it wants to see. Of course as most girls do, I dealt with body image issues but for me a lot of them stemmed from my height not my weight. For example, in high school one guy refused to date me on the basis that I was “too tall for any normal person.” Which of course crushed my 17 year old heart.

I didn’t start having weight body image issues until I had really begun to lose weight. I think I was around 50 pounds lost when I started realizing just how big I was. I began to shame myself for ever letting myself get to be that big. Thoughts would (and still do sometimes) rage in my head like, “How dare you ever let yourself get to that size” and “no wonder he didn’t want to date you! You look as big as a cow!” The want to lose weight also became intertwined with the disgust of what I had let myself become and the drive to never let that happen again. It is hard for me to look back at pictures of myself from two years ago and not judge myself or wonder what other people thought of me then. It’s like somewhere in my mind I equate size with rejection and yet I know that it’s just something my mind has created.

When you start to lose significant amount of weight, people will start to come up to you and say things like, “Wow you look great!” and “I can’t believe how small you look!” Now for any normal human, we bask in the glory of these moments! Our minds think, “YES! Finally all those mornings in the gym and eating right is paying off! People are finally noticing!” We began to lose weight for the sake of those compliments rather than because we want to do it for ourselves. It’s also what fuels comparisons.

One of the most dangerous traps weight loss books don’t tell you about is the comparison game. You are doing just fine until somebody else starts losing weight faster than you or others start noticing their weight loss. Suddenly you look at your own journey and wonder what you are doing wrong or why it isn’t coming off as quickly. Truth is (as cliché as it sounds) all of us lose weight differently and our journeys will look different. I will admit it is hard to drill that truth into your head when you are not only the tallest in the room but one of the biggest. It’s a truth I continually have to reteach myself.

These issues of body shaming and body issues rear their heads strongly when I step outside of the clean eating menu. Temptations are everywhere from Starbucks to the local grocery store. When I give in to temptations and have a brownie or a cinnamon roll, the second the last bite goes in my mouth I instantly feel shame. I feel like I’ve let everyone down and I almost instantly become scared I’m going to gain all the weight back that I’ve lost. Then the justification stage sets in. “Well I didn’t eat a big breakfast and I’m going to run later so this brownie really didn’t count.” ANOTHER DANGEROUS TRAP!

Justification is the precursor to falling off the band wagon entirely. If you are not careful, you will start justifying why you shouldn’t work out, why ordering a pizza is easier than going to the grocery store and before you know it you are right back at 300 pounds.

I know a lot of this seems heavy but this is the dark side of my journey. There are days when I don’t want to get up and go for a run. There are days when I do have a brownie and guess what I ENJOY it! (The key is not letting it become a daily necessity but an occasional treat.)

All of the struggle and pain has brought me so much joy! One of the biggest joys of this journey is the day that my dad and I went on our first run together. As a little girl I used to “run” with my dad around our yard. My dad has always been amazingly athletic and I remember growing up he would run every morning. I would wake up early some mornings and cut across the yard to catch up with him and run as fast as my chubby two year old legs would carry me. I remember thinking to myself “I can’t wait until I am big and I can run with daddy.” Well I got big but I never was able to run with daddy. I was too overweight and too embarrassed. August 2015 at 6 am I finally ran with my dad. My childhood dream of being able to run with my dad came true. (Yes I am sitting here typing this is tears!) As we ended our mile long run tears began to stream down my face. What a rush of accomplishment and joy.

That mile run was a catalyst for the next six months of me living at home. We went from one mile to two and eventually to three and even four miles. At the end of each run my dad would high five me and say, “Good job Ang”. To hear my dad say that is something I cannot explain. It makes me want to run another 10 miles!

Another joy for me has been getting to inspire others. To share with them my knowledge but also to encourage them and lift them up like so many have done for me. I love getting to celebrate with others their joys and being there when they stumble and need a hand. I know I couldn’t do this without my coaches, mentors and motivators. I would be SO lost without them!

So whether you are on your own weight loss journey or not, I hope this gives you a window into what it really is like to lose weight. It’s not always daisies and butterflies and there are days when I want to quit but I still fight. I fight because I want to be the healthiest I can not only for me but for my family and for my future family (Lord willing). Weight loss is a physical representation of an emotional and spiritual fight. A fight no one can face alone but requires support when you get knocked down. Most of all, this is a fight YOU CAN WIN! I promise to keep fighting, will you fight with me?

What bothers me. . .

This past month I kept logging on, started to writing a post only to delete it, and stare at a blank page. I could never seem to write something I felt was worthwhile or purge some deep emotion within me.

That was until a week ago, when I along with a few of my friends went into a bar to do ministry. I saw first hand an issue I see everyday but hadn't fully processed.

One issue that has continually been reappearing since I have been here in Chiang Mai, is this ever present issue of sex trafficking, prostitution and sex tourism. Men come in the thousands from all over the world to find "love". However, it is not the truest of loves that they seek; it is a lustful, self satisfying (for a moment) kind of "love".

My world here revolves around the result of this brokenness. I hold unwanted babies everyday that are a result of lustful desires that clouded out all judgment and protection. One such baby was the product of a one night stand. The father European, the mother an underage Thai prostitute. A young woman who had to sell her body to help support her family.

The idea that the Thai culture has about taking care of your family is a beautiful and precious thing. However, the system breaks down when there are no jobs and prostitution is the only way or ones family is so poor they willingly sell their daughters into the sex industry to put food on the table. And sadly, western middle aged men take advantage of this brokenness.

I have recently discovered within myself the burning sin of anger towards the men who travel thousands of miles to countries like Thailand and have sex with as many young women as possible. This anger also arose within me towards the men who come here and marry a girl half their age and call it love. While the only reason the girls stay with the guys is for the prestige, security and money. (IN NO WAY am I discounting real relationships that develop between Thai women and western men. I know that there are many happily married couples who are Thai and western.)

As I had dinner with a friend of mine who has been doing ministry in bars, I had the realization that it was sinful the amount of anger I was storing within myself towards these men.

The fact is... THEY ARE BROKEN PEOPLE TOO.

I have been forgetting to stop and ask myself what has caused them to end up here. What caused them to become so desperate for this lust masked as love? What brokenness in their past compelled them to buy a plane ticket all for the feeling of being wanted.

The more I thought about their brokenness, the more my heart broke for them. They need someone to pour into their lives. They too need the power of healing and redemption. They need to be shown true divine love.

I have been asking myself over and over: how do we minster to these men? And while I don't have the answer, I believe that it has to start at home.

We need to be instilling within the men and young boys in our lives the truth of their identity in Christ. That beyond romantic fairy tale love and sexual desires, the ultimate love comes not from a woman. It comes from our majestic creator who claims them both now and forever as his sons.

So, if you are like me and you find yourself so deeply entrenched in anger, don't stew in it. It will get you no where. Instead, let us chose a different path.

Lets chose to be a generation that is fed up with this brokenness and takes a stand.

Let us be a generation who choses not to be angry, but choses to boldly love these men.

Let us focus on their salvation and redemption and run towards them with our arms open wide ready to fight for them.

May we fight with a burning passion against the lies they have been fed, and shine the light of truth into the darkest parts of their soul.

Amen.

Songkran

Happy New Year from Thailand! I know you all must think I'm a little late in wishing you all a happy new year but I'm not... well at least not here in Thailand! This week is Songkran which is the traditional Thai New Year's festival! Here in Northern Thailand we are celebrating it by a huge water festival... in other words... a city wide water fight! Well that's later in the week.


Today however I got to be a part of a beautiful tradition at Agape. Every year during Songkran, Agape has a blessing ceremony where the staff and kids bless our director and her husband, our volunteer coordinator, our office manager and our head nanny and her husband. The staff and children get on their knees and pour water over the hands of each person mentioned above as they say a word of blessing before being blessed in return.


I watched and waited as the staff and the children literally poured blessings over the hands of those seated. I waited until everyone else had gone through before I went up and got my cup of jasmine water and got on my knees in front of our head nanny. Water poured over her hands as she reached out and hugged me saying thank you. At that moment I could tell I wasn't going to make it out of this experience with dry eyes! I continued down the line until I got to our director.


Let me just tell you a little bit about Avis. Avis has a heart of gold! She pours herself out daily for our kids and when she speaks to you, she speaks deep truth into your life. As I poured water over her hands, she reached up and held my shoulders and looked me in the eyes and started speaking love and truth into my life. I didn't even have time to bless her before she started blessing me. Her words pierced my heart with a deep profound light. She said, "Be open! God is opening a new book, a new chapter and a new page while you are here. But you have to be willing and open to it! This is your year if you believe it!" She kissed my cheeks and hugged me tight and I can't even begin to describe how in that moment, the truth of her words touched every part of my soul and rejuvenated my spirit.


As I stood up and walked away drying my tears, I couldn't help but to start smiling from ear to ear because I could feel the ink on that new page because God started writing.

(Avis pouring blessings over me!)

 

(Hugging Mae Oye our office manager)

Love Does

Recently my Facebook page has been filled with posts from friends of mine at Mountain Christian Church. The current sermon series is "Love Does" which is based on the best selling book with the same title. (written by Bob Goff.)

In light of this series and seeing the words "Love Does" everywhere, I began to think about what "Love Does" looks like in my life and ministry here in Thailand.
So here it goes. . .

What does love do?
Love holds the hand of one who is dying of HIV.

What does love do?
Love never turns a child away from a safe and loving home.

What does love do?
Love reaches out into the community and transforms lives.

What does love do?
Love protects and holds a child when they are scared or hurt.

What does love do?
Love actively shows the power of being a child of God.

What does love do?
Love disciplines and teaches without being malicious or angry.

What does love do?
Love celebrates when a child succeeds even in the smallest ways.

What does love do?
Love gives 110% even on hard days.

What does love do?
Love does not judge but listens and pursues understanding.

What does love do?
Love forgives and restores relationships to a rightful place.

What does love do?
Love doesn't waiver and refuses to give up on a child no matter how difficult they may be.

What does love do?
Love at its purest form gives a child a forever home.